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I hate when passing aquaintances ask me getting-to-know-you questions like "what kind of music do you like?" or "where did you grow up?". Why? What do you care? Maybe they're just trying to be friendly but I can't help but suspect what they're really looking for is a "handle" on me - some nice little cubby for me inside their heads so they can tell themselves they know me. Well, you can't just skip ahead in the process by ticking off boxes in some stuped mental survey form. Getting to know someone takes years and years. You are not superior or clever enough to skip all the actual work. Sep 14 10:56 AM MST